The Date, Oh Hell Who Knows

Our friend decided to sit with his issues and just let it all cool down.  After over two weeks he gave her a call.  He called with no expectations but rather almost expected that it would be no and if it was no then no is no, life goes on.  Guess what, she was happy to hear from him and they made a date.  They met for a tea and an hour an half passed very quickly.  They had a lot in common.  He said it didn’t seem like a romantic click, but the rapport was so connected he asked her for another date.  He asked her to be brutally honest as to whether she really would like to get together again.  She was bit uncomfortable and in that he knew the answer was not going to be an immediate yes.  She said no as politely as she could, but it was still a bit awkward.  He said he was okay with that and that his life was so full that he much preferred the truth to being vague.

She said she would like to get together again as friends and he said okay, and then she hesitated and said let’s just not know how it will turn out. He left thinking there was no chance of anything developing further and the next day realized how much he enjoyed the rapport.

Our friend is looking to meet someone who is interested in a long term relationship.  That’s what he wants.  It may not come in the package or sequence he imagines.