See ya next Lifetime, I don’t think so!

In late August 2008 I was at a seminar in upstate New York with the brilliant relationship teachers, John and Jennifer Welwood.  During the course of the weekend workshop, I met a woman for whom I felt an immediate attraction, though it was clearly not something to act upon as she was married with two kids.  I mention attraction because she wasn’t necessarily “my type,” but who she was was blindingly radiant and full of life and that’s what I call attraction with staying power.  She had a wonderful aliveness, a sense of humor and natural rapport.  In another lifetime we might have spent more time together. But for this weekend we were delighted to see each other at meals as instant great friends, something that is very rare.

At our last meal she mentioned that her “first love” had found her on Facebook after many years being out of touch and said he wanted to get together. He had gone through a marriage and it ended and then he went looking for Maria.  I’ll call her Maria. The name is changed, but I imagine that when he said her name it was almost like praying: Maria! Sorry, I couldn’t resist.  Maria has to be one of the greatest love songs of all time.

Okay, Maria went on and one about this guy and yet, she told him she was not going to disturb her marriage by meeting up with him.  But, she said she would meet him in their next lifetime to complete their karma.

As I was leaving the seminar center, I looked over at Maria still blissfully chatting with her friends.  Suddenly I knew I had something for her and I called her over to speak with me.  As there was already a safe space for this, I said, and quite emphatically so: “You are going to find your liberation this lifetime and you are going to do it with your husband.  Every thought and word you put out about another person creates distraction and disruption in your relationship.  Your children will feel it and the psychic imprint they will get from their mom is woman who has energy with another man. And then they will go and replicate what was familiar to them, a distracted parent.”

Maria just said thank you and then she started to cry. We held each other for a few moments. I didn’t know I was going to say what I said to her.  I didn’t plan it out.  Sometimes I find myself sharing a thought with someone and it seems so spontaneous, almost as though it comes from another lifetime. I want us all to wake up to the mind games we play in relationships and in life, and get on with a more conscious life, a great life for that matter, because good is the enemy of great!