Where does the love go after a break-up?

Once upon a time, all of us at some point were deeply and very much in love with our ex-s. An idealization of the fairy tale like “happily ever after” felt like an underlying current in the beginning stages with them. There was that inexplicable feeling that made us “walk on the clouds” when we were together with them. But unfortunately, love wasn’t meant to last the way we hoped for or even planned it would. Change is the inherent and eternal quality of all things, love included. So in order for love to last, it is vital to realize that we grow through the different stages and cycles of love. For until we learn how to grow through the cycles of change in every dimension of life, it will be difficult to live fully as change will often get the better of us.

Another thing we need to realize is that the different emotions and feelings that we associate with love are but a tiny aspect of love. It is quite erroneous to think that love is nothing more than a mere feeling or emotion. A lot of people somehow believe that when the feelings of being in love are gone, that love itself is gone. There are a couple of things to consider here: that feelings always change, and feelings are not always dependable or reliable. Therefore it is crucial to note that there are other aspects of love that we need to explore. Those are the aspects of love that are inherently more spiritual in nature that will be discussed in my next article.

So where did love go? It’s still there. It just took on a different shape and form.